5 Ways Creating Your Dream Life Will Help You Find Love

I know that this might seem like two major and – to some – two unobtainable tasks to achieve. You might think, “I have no idea how to live my dream life and I don’t even really know what it looks like… how am I ever going to find love if I don’t know what my ideal dream life looks like?”

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No worries, we’ve all been there.

I’m still working on creating mine, and in fact I believe that your “ideal dream life” always changes and shifts. It changes as we evolve and grow. Your “dream life” isn’t a destination or a prize for a “life well lived”, it’s a fluid and always changing dream, but as long as you have a broad idea of how you (at this moment) want your life to be and you have some dreams and ideas for the future, you are well on your way.

It’s my opinion that one of the most important things in life is to live your best life according to you and to love your individuality first, to be able to find that perfect person to become a twosome with.

The following 5 steps are my personal take on how you can move from where you are now, create the perfect foundation for your “dream life” and then over time understand who you are, what you want out of life.

As a result, you start to attract the kind of love that naturally fits into your life, believes, priorities, standards and expectations of the future.

#1 Knowing your dreams for the future lets you understand your true self

When you spend time really understanding what it is you want out of life… what your hopes and dreams are for the future, you can’t help but increasing your own level of self-understanding and often also self-respect.

Knowing your deepest desires and dreams means that you understand yourself on a deeper level and thereby it becomes easier to see your own path going forward. The path in front of you gets more clear and obvious, and you start to understand what your next step is, what you’re able to change and what you love about your current situation.

#2 Knowing your true self lets you understand your boundaries

As a co-driver of your increasing self-awareness and deeper understanding of who you truly are and what you want your future to look like, you also start to identify your own boundaries and limitations.

You have an easier time identifying when something enters your life that you don’t want, because it doesn’t correlate with the clear vision and path that you have created in your mind.

If you’ve lost contact to your own boundaries over the years, the best way to re-introduce yourself to them is to stop yourself before you accept a new “challenge”, task or situation, and evaluate it and then decide:

#1 Is this in accordance with what I have in mind for myself and the life that I want to live?

#2 Does it make me feel good, give me energy or does it take away from my focus, drive and happiness? 

#3 Does it feel like I can be myself in this situation, can I see myself moving forward in this or will I risk losing who I am or do I need to change aspects of myself to fit in?

Make sure to ask yourself the most relevant questions and then make an informed decision based on what serves you the best… remember that what serves you best often also serves the people around you best.

#3 Understanding your boundaries strengthens your self-confidence

When you start to understand what it is you want, what your goals in life are, what you want out of life, and you acknowledge your boundaries and respect them, you live a life of self-respect.

When you start living your life guided by self-love and self-respect, your confidence naturally improves and you start to believe in yourself and the dreams that you have for yourself and your future.

#4 Increased self-confidence opens you up to new people and opportunities

I find it interesting how it all fits together and how one aspect is dependent on the other. Trying to find more confidence in yourself can be a difficult task, but if you start to see the pattern of how your boundaries are dependent on your level of self-awareness and your understanding of who you are and what you want… that your level of confidence is dependent on your ability to recognize and respect yourself and your own boundaries then it all begins to make more sense.

As your confidence increases, your ability to take initiative and approach new people increases accordingly or at least it improves greatly.

#5 The bonus: By getting to know yourself you learn to identify the source of your happiness

So many of us make the mistake of believing that the key to our happiness lies in the hand of others, a future partner, a friend, a boss, or our family.

There is a truth to the fact that we find an essential amount of our happiness and quality of life in the time we spend with the people we love, but we need to understand what makes us happy first.

Relying on other people to be happy, is relying on them in a way that they should never be relied upon. You can’t place that responsibility on someone else.

The truth is that no person will ever make you happy if you’re not happy already!

That’s why it’s so important to create the perfect relationship with yourself first, understand what makes you tick, what makes you happy and what you want your life to look like, instead of “disclaiming” your responsibility for your happiness and life-outcome to the next person who enters your life.

Of cause, other people can affect your happiness and make you happier, but if you’re not happy with yourself and your life already, then your unhappiness will, without a doubt, show its ugly face again, and guess whom you are going to blame for it?

The logic here is: If that person was the source of your happiness in the first place, it’s only logical that they would be the source of your unhappiness as well.

Understanding yourself, your values, your boundaries and your own source of happiness is an essential part of increasing your self-confidence and creating your irresistible life. When you’re focused on these 5 elements of your life, you will automatically become more attractive and irresistible to the partner who is the perfect match for you.

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