How to Stay On Track With Your Goals, When Life-Changing Events Happen!

If you’re like me you have many amazing ideas and visions for yourself, goals you know you want to reach and can’t wait to finally achieve!?

Over the past many years, I’ve come to understand and respect that achieving your goals, isn’t always a straight line from a to b. Often we need to take de-tours and go off grid… before we get back on track again ─ sometimes with whatever changes/baggage we might have accumulated along the way.

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A curveball

Depending on what the change or de-tour might be – lovely or unfortunate – there are different ways to approach them and deal with them.

In my case, I ran into a lovely and highly welcomed life-changing surprise about 7 months ago…

7 months ago, I was laser-focused on one goal and dream. I was living 100% in the dream of creating my own business, becoming financially independent, creating Living Happy and working on creating my success.

Then, I discovered I was expecting my first child… and almost overnight my focus and energy had changed… I had a hard time thinking about anything other than babies, planning, being in love and taking long naps (pregnancy makes me incredibly tired).

To be honest it was a mixed time for me, being over the moon happy, excited and ready to be a mom, but also dealing with overwhelming guilt and anxiety for not focusing enough on establishing Living Happy and giving it my undivided attention.

I still struggle with keeping my end-goal in clear focus. I’m on a huge de-tour on my journey, and my mind seems to be filled with cute baby outfits, ways to decorate for the baby and dreaming about how it’s going to be when the baby comes.

For me the curve-ball is a pregnancy, but you might be going through something completely different, like an illness in the family, a disagreement with a partner or family-member, a new job-offer, or maybe your offer on a new house got turned down?

It’s all part of the plan

So, how do we stay on track with our goals, when something intervenes and changes our life (big or small – good or bad)?

Do we need to find a way to re-focus our energy and stay loyal to our goal/dream or is it best to accept the change and live in the changed reality?

Do we need to allow space for the de-tour to run its course… accept it as a part of the journey… and live through it, without wasting our precious energy and mental sanity on worry and guilt?

I’m a hard worker and I love to work on my goals. But, with so much going on in my personal life, I often feel guilty and worried about what I’m NOT doing (instead of focusing on what I AM doing right), and I feel nervous about the fact that this goal seems to be moving further and further into the future…

If I dig my head out of the negativity and guilt-cloud for just one second, and instead focus on what is really going on; it immediately becomes crystal clear that this is what I wanted all along!

I WANT to be a mother, I WANT to create a family, I WANT to have a life full of love. It’s been a big part of my overall life-plan for as long as I can remember! So, looking at my life through those lenses, this “de-tour” becomes a blessing and essential part of realizing a much bigger dream. MOTHERHOOD!

Play the game

As I mentioned before, life isn’t one straight and planned line. Reaching a goal or dream might need a few de-tours, roadblocks, blessings and obstacles. But, if we allow ourselves to live through them, the journey and outcome might turn out to be just what we wanted all along.

Maybe the answer to staying on track – when life throws you a curveball – is to play the game and allow yourself to enjoy/live through what might be handed to you.

You never know what might be the reason behind the curveball… maybe there’s an important lesson to learn, maybe it’s something you’ve consciously/unconsciously asked for… maybe it’s the universe letting you know that you need to re-think your goal… or maybe it’s something you need to live through, to be able to reach your final goal?

Here are a few ideas to help you stay on track (when you feel like everything is falling apart in front of you.)

Repeat this Mantra daily (or something similar)!

Having a mantra, helps you stay focused on the positive, when negativity seems to take up residence in your mind.

“I leave behind frustration, worry and regret. Instead I’m determined to enjoy/accept/allow what has been handed to me. I’m right where I need to be and it’s all playing a part in me living the life of my dreams.”

Zoom out

Try to zoom out and look at your life from a bigger perspective.

Is this really an obstacle or roadblock? Or is it in fact a hidden gift, lesson or guide?

Turn it into a positive instead of a negative. When you discover the truth behind the de-tour, you’ll find a natural relief and acceptance, and you will begin to allow everything to take its natural course.

Create a positive headspace

If your goal is meant to come true… if you take consistent steps (even just small steps) towards your goal… and if you keep it in your mind’s eye, you WILL eventually reach it.

I believe the worst thing we can do is to get stuck in a negative headspace and live in fear of any change that might hold us from reaching a goal.

We need to be open, flexible and ready to adapt to what life might gift us/hand us.

Re-consider your goals

Are your goals still the same or do you need to re-set/re-tune your goals?

Maybe you still want the exact same thing, or maybe you’ve changed or your circumstances have changed enough, so you need to change your goal accordingly. There’s absolutely no shame or failure in re-visiting your intentions for the future. Your new goal might turn out to be even better than the old one.

What is a life-changing challenge that has been presented to you in your life? Did it keep you from realizing your dreams or did it help you achieve your goals on an even higher level?

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